“Be Helpful, Not Hurtful” – Bullying – Stop It

Nephi on March 9, 2014 · 21 comments


This is simply a great video and not entirely about bullying.  Though I heard President Dieter F Uchtdorf’s talk last year, I guess I didn’t really listen because there was a lot said in the video that applied to me.  And, since I’m not in the habit of upsetting people or wishing them harm and I still found it applied to me, perhaps you may feel the same way.

Anyway, when I watched the video above, I felt inspired to share the words of a YSA blogger I know.  Megan’s full post is at “Be Helpful, Not Hurtful

She wrote, “If you are bullying someone or a group of people, please stop. It’s not fair for them and it’s not fair for you. Always try to think about the other people’s feelings about it. It does hurt and sometimes it can be hard about forgiving and saying sorry to them. Just don’t do it.”

I’d also like to include President Uchtdorf’s words here as I think we could all learn a lot, particularly about our own selves, if we apply what he says into our lives.

I imagine that every person on earth has been affected in some way by the destructive spirit of contention, resentment and revenge. The spirit of envy and hatred has led to some of the most tragic stories in history. Perhaps there are even times when we recognize this spirit in ourselves.

People do things that annoy, disappoint, and anger. Though we cannot look into another’s heart, we assume that we know a bad motive or even a bad person when we see one. This topic of judging others could actually be taught in a two-word sermon.

When it comes to hating, gossiping, ignoring, ridiculing, holding grudges, or wanting to cause harm, please apply the following…
Stop it!

Haven’t we all at one time or another meekly approached the mercy seat and pleaded for Grace. Haven’t we’ve wished with all the energy of our souls for mercy to be forgiven for the mistakes we have made and the sins we have committed.

Forgiving ourselves and others is not easy. In fact for most of us it requires a major change in our attitude and way of thinking even a change of heart.

Consider the following questions as a self-test.
Do you harbor grudge against someone else?
Do you gossip even when what you say may be true?
Do you exclude, push away, or punish others because of something they have done?
Do you secretly envy another?
Do you wish to cause harm to someone?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may want to apply the two-word sermon from earlier: Stop it!

There’s enough heartache and sorrow in this life without our adding to it through our own stubbornness, bitterness, and resentment.

This mighty change of heart is exactly what the Gospel of Jesus Christ is designed to bring about. Let us be kind, let us forgive, let us talk peacefully with each other, let us do good unto all men.

Allowing us to see others the way our Heavenly Father sees us, as flawed and imperfect mortals, who have potential and worth far beyond our capacity to imagine.

Because God loves us so much, we too must love and forgive. Remember, in the end it is the merciful who obtain mercy.


21 Responses to ““Be Helpful, Not Hurtful” – Bullying – Stop It”

  1. ciaxel says:

    This teaches an incredible message. I’ve gotten to the point where I want to physically get into fights with bullies out of anger of being bullied in the past. It just creates an endless domino effect and we need to contemplate that as soon as possible.

  2. Justin Dietlmeier says:

    The Shaytards lead me here. Very touching and eye tearing for the bullied. I have been there before but I was always good at standing up and just laugh back at them knowing they must think about me instead of there problems. Video should be spread to victims of bullying.

  3. Maxima Vandersanden says:

    I never bullied but I looked away when others did. I regret that. But I was afraid they would turn against me. For some it’s easy to be helpful, but for most, it seems, it’s easier to be hurtful. Never will everyone be nice. But some. And sometimes that’s enough for the ones being bullied.

  4. Jason Brentner says:

    I may not share the same beliefs of the LDS faithful but this was a
    powerful video. It moved me. I was bullied as a child. I know how painful it can be.

    Recently, I have been speaking out against bullying and I am happy my child agrees. She stands up for victims at her school.

    We need more projects like this. Thank you.

  5. Volkmar Wieland says:

    There is so much darkness in this world. However, we have the power to make a change.

  6. Penny Pockets says:

    I’m not Mormon, not even close, but this is one of the most powerful
    messages I have ever seen. No matter who you are, no matter what religion, you need to watch this video and this and listen to the message

  7. Justous says:

    Not a Mormon, but it was very much worth the 10 mins of my time and the
    like. The end made me smile! :D

  8. MMMIK13 says:

    Most people don’t realize that they are bullying somebody, so telling
    “bullies” to stop might not help. Maybe you should rather tell others to
    tell people who are bullies that they are bullies, or tell the victims to
    tell the authorities or somebody they trust about what’s happening to them?

    • Nephi says:

      The first line of your comment is right. There are times when the “bully” doesn’t know they are a bully. That is why in most guidelines in workplaces, schools and elsewhere it suggests that the first action the victim should take is to approach the bully and let them know how their actions or words make them feel.

      eg. When you say, ‘You’re fat, ugly, stupid and your eyes are too far apart” that makes me feel like putting you in a wood chipper and using you as fertilizer.

      That way the bully knows the victim is being affected by the actions and words. If they were genuinely unaware, they may apologize or at least stop to avoid becoming the reason for the victim growing the best cabbages in the town.

  9. Lucifer Jones says:

    Bullies should be ashamed of themselves. There is absolutely NO reason in
    the WORLD why you should bully another person. Not because of looks,
    religion, sexual orientation, and so on. There is NO REASON. More than a
    thousand teens commit suicide each year because of bullying. Stop bullying.

  10. Anna Oberoi says:

    bullies are losers and cowards so bullies out there imagine you being the one bullied you guys are going to be in jail if you keep up the bad job the world is against you unless you turn good

  11. Joe Balaich says:

    If no one will stop it, then we must put a stop to it.

  12. TVOCD says:

    That was a great ending!! =)

  13. adri cat says:

    This really moved me. I love this video. It made me cry for all sorts of
    reasons. I love this. This is true, and what he did at the end was right
    

  14. vanessa everett says:

    I so cried this is SO sad

  15. brandy mason says:

    I was hard core bullied. Thought I’d never survive it. Now I am a strong
    person and can handle just about anything. I don’t care what people think
    of me now. Our church has some of the best short help videos out there. I
    love their videos.

  16. Grace Jones says:

    LOVE YOU FOR BRING ME HERE SHAY! :)

  17. Trinity Webb says:

    This made me cry I was bullied because of what color my hair was and
    because of how short I am

  18. Steve Jensen says:

    Pull out a kleenex. I’ll be showing it to my kids. 

  19. Baruka88 says:

    the main guy is hot 

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